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Are You a Hater?

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Ever find yourself making this face? Yeah, not so pretty is it?! It’s like you have to put actual, conscious effort into making this face. That means sending disdain and negativity into your body in order to make this expression! 

What? Why?! Sounds terrible, right? 

So why do we sometimes create negativity from within ourselves and send it outwards into the world via this nasty face?

– You don’t like someone.

– Something is not working out in your favor.

– You see someone as the competition.

On the surface you may say, “yeah, I can see myself hating on someone for those reasons.” In that case, I challenge you to take a deeper look at why you are hating…

– Are you jealous? Probably! Find out why.

– Are you reflecting on your own weaknesses when you see someone else excelling? 

– Do you secretly feel everything should work out for you? Why? What makes you so special?

Don’t hate, appreciate. 

How can you turn that awful face and self-created hate into positive appreciation for the person or thing?

– See the person as a blessing that’s pushing you to be better (the competition trigger).

– Understand your jealousy towards someone, and instead, use that energy to work on improving yourself versus beating others down (the “don’t like” trigger).

– See how this situation can be a learning experience and benefit you down the road (the “not in my favor” trigger).

Ever caught yourself making this face or creating the hate? Tell us about it! What did you do to correct it ? Share your comments below!

Be your best self today,

Brittany

Check out this blog!

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Check out this hilarious, straight forward, and real-life blog! I don’t often recommend other blogs. But when I do, trust me, they’re good! 

More specifically, check out his article “16 ways I blew my marriage”. We can ALL benefit from acknowledging the behaviors he calls attention to, and recommended “do over” approaches. 

http://www.danoah.com/2012/10/16-ways-i-blew-my-marriage.html

What do you think? Share your comments below!

Want your life Photoshopped?

So often we run around wishing things were different about our lives, and our selves. What if you could change that?

In this video, 4 women received professional makeup, styling, and photography to make them look like “Cover Girls.” Every woman’s dream, right? Well, their reactions may surprise you.

Not only did these women feel that they didn’t recognize themselves, they had overall negative reactions to being so drastically photoshopped. They even said, “I don’t even know that person.”

How do you project this is your own life? Do you wish you looked like someone else? Had someone else’s career? Someone’s life? That would fix everything! Right?!

Wrong. Don’t ask to look like someone else. Or be someone else. Be yourself. Be your best self.

— Brittany

Change Vs. Progress

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 “Only two things in life are certain – death and taxes.” Heard this before? Definitely rings true during tax season! But I’d like to propose that something else is certain as well:

Change.

While it often seems that we’re stuck in a rut, we know that change will come. Why? Because it has every time before! We used to be little, then we grew. We used to have flip phones, now we have iPhones.  We used to have no clue about our health, now we’re educated on how to be healthy.

 We know change is coming; yet we still talk about making changes as if it’s some elusive challenge. Change is certain. Progress is not.

So what’s progress? Progress in your fitness? Nutrition? Overall health? If change is anything different from the status quo, then progress is a change that is more specific, goal-oriented, and measurable. 

Progress is a measure of relativity. You’re moving towards change in a specific direction. Movement on that trajectory is identified as progress. If you altered your habits to lose weight, but it resulted in weight gain, this is change but not progress. If you started a healthy diet to lose weight, and we’re gradually losing the weight, this is progress.

You need a goal in order to measure progress from change. PS- “I want to be healthy” is not a goal, it’s a statement. Make sure your goal has specifics, a timeline, and is measurable. 

Specifics: Try “I will eat 3 servings of vegetables daily” versus “I will eat healthy”. By articulating the specific thing you will do, you will be more likely to actually do it!

Timeline: Create timeframes, start dates, and deadlines for yourself. Otherwise, your “Someday” will likely never come. Here’s a sample of a timeline – “I will eat 3 servings of vegetables daily for 6 consecutive weeks, beginning March 9th.”

Measurement: How do you know you’re not at your goal already? How do you know if you’re making progress towards your goal? Most importantly, how will you know when you’ve reached your goal? Measurement. This is key to the whole process of making progress and achieving your best self.

Ask yourself these questions to assess your goal for measurability:

–       Can you count it?

–       Can you create a percentage from your results to determine your progress? (i.e. I ate 3 servings of veggies 3 out of 5 days thus far= 60% progress towards goal).

 –       Can you make adjustments to your goal based on your findings from your percentage and experience? (i.e. maybe only 2 servings of veggies daily is more reasonable for you. Maybe 5 days weekly versus 7 is better for you).

*This is not to say that you should lower your standards, but continuing to progress on an adjusted goal is more beneficial than failing miserably on a strict, unattainable goal.

Ok, Let’s go over what we know:

–       We know that change will come. The question is how, when, and in which direction?

–       We know that progress is necessary for improvement, not just change.

–       We need a goal in order to distinguish progress from change.

–       Our goal needs to be specific, have a timeline, and be measurable in order to evaluate progress.

 If you don’t have a plan, you plan to fail. So make a plan, make progress and achieve your goals. This success will build your momentum for future goals and future successes. Progress, not change, is necessary to become your best self

Is your life a disorganized bookshelf?

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‘Is she really comparing my life to a bookshelf?’ you might be asking yourself. The answer is yes. If you’re like me, then your life IS like a disorganized bookshelf.

What do I mean? Our mind works like a series shelves and compartments. We see something, think something, experience something, and then we categorize it. These categories act as compartments and cubbies in our brains- strictly organizing the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors of ourselves and others accordingly.  The categories, compartments, and cubbies are created based on our mental schemas, or mind frames. For instance, if you’re religious, you may believe that premarital sex is bad. That belief acts a blueprint for other thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to be categorized. So if a friend shares something about their relationship, you may categorize them as good or bad based on your pre-developed schema. Got it? 

Make space in your bookshelf. Make space for new ideas, feelings, and a new schema. Think about the schemas and mind frames your parents hold. How are yours similar and different? How did you develop different schemas than your parents on the same principles/thoughts? Your experience! And thank goodness for it! If our thoughts and perspective stayed the same for generations, then we wouldn’t have civil rights and marriage equality. 

So how are the cubbies on your bookshelf serving you? Or not serving you? What categories should you eliminate, combine, or make more room for? Hint: Making more room to explore your rationalization for certain schemas, being open to new schemas, and new labels for healthier schemas is key! Until we accept our need for growth and make it a priority, your bookshelf will appear full and crowded. Get rid of what’s not serving you for some new books (ideas)!

Your bookshelf is for practicing containment. For instance, one cubby of your bookshelf (the self-help section!) may be overflowing with books, going all different directions, and very few have actually been read. Sound familiar? You may have some anxiety around wondering ‘Am I good enough? I feel like an impostor. I’m lacking fulfillment.’  You may have found several things that could be helpful, but you’re not sure what’s actually going to work. Feeling some uncertainty? Overwhelm? So how well can you sit with these feelings- the anxiety, uncertainty, incompetence? My guess is not good. Most of us struggle with these feelings.

What can you do about it? Become an observer of yourself! Take a step back and look at what you do when you experience these feelings. Do you rush out to buy another book or “something that will make the feeling go away?” Observe the feeling and your reactions to it without being judgmental. Take responsibility for the feeling by stating them out loud“I’m don’t feel adequate in my job.”

When you’re immediate remedy doesn’t alleviate the feeling (buying that book), what’s your next move? Tip: placing judgment on yourself or the feeling won’t help here. So don’t hate, appreciate. The feelings are signals. That’s it. Use them as such. What are they really trying to tell you? Tip #2: it’s usually not the surface thing you think it’s telling you. Dig deeper by observing. Contain the feelings not but suppressing them, but by allowing them some space on your bookshelf, acknowledging them (out loud!), and being aware of your reactions to them.

So how will you clean up your bookshelf? Here are some suggestions:

– Get rid of the books (mental schemas) that aren’t serving you. i.e. You’re not good enough, You will never succeed. These aren’t good books, trust me 🙂

– Reorganize the books your want to keep. Know where to find books like You Are Loved and You have support at a moments notice. These are the best books to reread as needed! 

– Leave open space on your bookshelf for future readings. Being open to new ideas about yourself and world requires mental space to do so. So make room for the You that will continue to grow and evolve in your career, relationships, and life. 

Tell us about your mental bookshelf below. How have you organized it for the better? Share your experience now!

CrossFit Workshop

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I had an amazing time working with the female athletes of CrossFit Providence over the weekend! I never tire of meeting new members and seeing the tenacity and strength in each one! You ladies never fail to amaze me with your accomplishments inside and outside of the gym. 

So in honor of the awesomeness of the ladies at the Women’s Workshop on Saturday Jan 25th, I will let all of you in on a little secret I shared with them:

You can have the life you really want!

I know, right?! Amazing stuff! It’s all yours, just waiting for you to believe in yourself, your strength, and your truth enough to go get it! So this is where I come in…

Do you have a dream life? I do – it’s me on a beach, with a good book, great food, and working 4 hours a day. What’s yours? Want your dream life to live forever in dreamland or reality? That’s your choice!

Want to choose to make your dream life your reality? Not everyone does. Some are too afraid to share their dreams with others because then they’ll have to answer for their lack of progress towards their dream. So they never achieve their dream out of FEAR. Remember what I said about fear…

What’s that you say? So you’re not going to let fear run your life and steer you away from your dreams? GREAT!

Now what? Strategize for success! You’re not going to get there overnight, but if you want to make sure you achieve your dream life at some point, you need a plan!

Below is my Life Aim worksheet  with steps to:

– visualize your dream life,

– break it down,

– determine needed resources,

– prioritize,

– and goal set!

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What’s your Life Aim? Share yours below and you may inspire others 🙂 Want help developing a Life Aim? Work with me

Be Your Best Self!

Brittany

Food for Thought

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I’m away on vacation right now (yay!) which has allowed for a lot of reading I’ve been meaning to catch up on. Currently open is a book by Susan Thesenga called The Undefended Self. This book identifies our different levels of consciousness and desires as the lower self (where all the negativity and anger hang out), higher self (our spiritual and inherently good self), and mask (our defenses and what we show others). I was struck by a quote in the book that has stuck with me for a few days now:

“The call for the soul to grow spiritually comes to us in the form of our personal longings. Every human being longs for something we believe will make our lives more fulfilling. This may come to us as longing for deep mutuality with a mate, or for meaningful work, or for a more loving family. Or our desires may be spiritual fulfillment, for a deeper relationship with God, or to connect to the environment around us. Behind these specific desires is a feeling or a sensing that another more fulfilling state of consciousness and a larger capacity to experience life must exist.”

What an amazing and unifying thought- that we could all be connected through this longing for fulfillment. Although we may be seeking fulfillment in different ways, each one of our higher selves wants to be better and get more out of this life. Can we help each other achieve that? Can we help ourselves succeed? 

Tell us below in the comment box what you need for greater fulfillment! How will you get it?

Increase Your Value

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Would you buy something that’s really cheap and probably doesn’t live up to its promises? Or, would you buy something very expensive that probably is overpriced and exceeds what you need?

Exactly! No! Whether we’re shopping for a new phone or a partner, we’re always looking for value. We want something that has longevity and is of quality, but don’t want to overpay for it. We’re constantly seeking that sweet spot.

So what’s your value? In your job, as a friend, as a partner?

Ever feel that you work really hard, but your efforts aren’t being recognized? Feel that you deserve better than what you have in life? Maybe it’s time to raise your value.

Value is a product of economics – a direct relation of supply and demand. If the supply is limited, than the demand is likely to increase. And if demand is increasing and supply is limited, than the thing (which could be you!) becomes more valuable.

So what do I mean “limit your supply?”

Have you ever wanted to get ahead at work? So you volunteered to stay late, said “yes” to all your boss’s requests, and watched someone else get that promotion? How could the boss have chosen that guy who doesn’t do anything extra and makes his own demands?

Ever been so infatuated with someone that you were willing to clear your schedule at his or her beckon call? Who hasn’t?! How did that work out? My guess is that it didn’t.

Interested in changing that? Want to get what you want without working so hard for it? Take control of your future by taking back the reigns on your priorities. 

What are your priorities in life? Right now. This second.

So when you stay for extra hours at work, what happens to your priorities? When you don’t take care of something you need to in order to see that person you can live without, where are your priorities?

You, your goals, and your dreams are very important, so treat them that way! If you’re willing to drop everything for others, it sends the message that, indeed you’re not very important and therefore have a low value. That guy who’s not willing to do more for free or can’t meet up with you on the drop of a hat is sending the message that he’s more valuable than that! 

So which guy/girl do you want to be?

-Reevaluate your priorities

-Don’t put your needs last

-And always ask yourself “is this aligned with my goals?”

This will allow you to increase your value to get what you really want in your life! What are you doing now to get what you want? What hasn’t worked for you? Share it below now!

What’s your vision?

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So you made a New Year’s resolution and a week in it’s already difficult to remember it and stay on track. You’re not alone. 

How can you make your goals an everyday part of your life?

 Visual ques. Take a note from your friends on Pinterest and create a vision board!

What’s a vision board? Anything that is inspiring, related to your goals, and encourages you to get after it!

Above is an example of a men’s fitness vision board (or porn for women, whichever!). If you’re looking for aesthetic results from health and fitness, then this is a great vision board for you.

Looking for something different? Below are some great goal categories to consider. Pick no more than 3 visions for your vision board; any more would be confusing.

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Put your vision board somewhere where you will see it! In your office, on the fridge, or in your car to see on the way to work. Make sure it’s in a place that you will see it EVERYDAY!

Above all else, you vision board should reflect who you authentically are and what you really want in life! Choose pictures that motivate you immediately and make you strive to be your best self!

Already have a vision board? Submit a picture or a link to it below! Need help formulating your vision? Contact me for a free consultation!