How your FEAR won’t let you Win!

We all use information from past experiences, our emotions, and needs to make decisions and take action. Our decisions are usually made based on fear or love. But we don’t like to call it fear (because that would be embarrassing!). Instead, we feel self-doubt, frustration, anger, jealousy.

But wouldn’t it be nice to act from a place of love? Real, sustainable change can only happen when we change our motivation to act from fear to love.

How has fear stopped you from taking action towards your goals? When did you regret doing something out of fear?

If you’ve already made this change, how are you acting out of love now? Share your story below to inspire others!

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Find out what’s missing TODAY!

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Included in the Build Your Best Self seminar is my Status and Strategy Assessment ($199 value). Get a peek of what the 4-page assessment looks like. This is a great tool to find out EXACTLY:

• What’s missing in your life
• What’s stealing your drive and motivation
• What’s causing lack of clarity and keeping you from moving forward
• What clouds your vision and prevents you from formulating an action plan
• What you can start doing TODAY to achieve greater success

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The Build Your Best Self seminar begins May 1st! Contact me to reserve your spot!

Vlog: Why you’ll never find clarity

How many self-help books have you read, experts you’d consulted, and methods have you tried to find clarity?! Still not “clear”? That’s what I thought. Find out what no one tells you about gaining clarity, but is the one thing that works!

Check out this blog!

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Check out this hilarious, straight forward, and real-life blog! I don’t often recommend other blogs. But when I do, trust me, they’re good! 

More specifically, check out his article “16 ways I blew my marriage”. We can ALL benefit from acknowledging the behaviors he calls attention to, and recommended “do over” approaches. 

http://www.danoah.com/2012/10/16-ways-i-blew-my-marriage.html

What do you think? Share your comments below!

Caretaker Syndrome

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Ever feel that some of your relationships resemble the picture above? You- taking care of a person who is supposed to be your spouse, partner, equal, peer?

Do you have days when talking with this person is more of a chore than an asset to your day?

Ever feel so exhausted by all the giving, listening, and care-taking you do for others that you don’t have time to take care of yourself?

Want this to be different? Want to be taken care of too?

You first have to ask yourself ‘How is this relationship serving you?’

There’s a good chance that you’re getting something out of serving others. Maybe it’s a way to be close to the people we’re taking care of, giving your life more purpose, or giving you something to complain about with others (this can be valid too!).

No, I’m not talking about taking care of Great Aunt Margaret. I’m talking about the relationships in your life that seem like you’re the one doing all the giving, and when the tables are turned, this person is not there to listen, support, and validate your needs as well.

Get what you want out of the relationship by making the following changes:

Take inventory- notice the times when you feel drained after being with this person. What was talked about? What happened? How do you feel after leaving that situation?

Ask for what you want- These people aren’t mind readers! Tell them what you need and see what happens. PS- this will be a pivotal point in the relationship!

Learn from a taker- Make sure you’re not draining others with your emotional needs. Ask yourself ‘Is the conversation balanced? Am I listening? When do I give back to them?’ 

Ever been in a relationship or friendship like this? Share your story below! How did it change? Or did it have to end?

What men need to live a happy life

What men need to live a happy life

Here it is… all the secrets you’re looking for to obtain fulfillment, control, and clarity in your life. Yeah right, I wish it were that easy too! But this article on Harvard University’s 75-year longitudinal study does reveal some interesting correlations between men’s happiness and their lifestyle choices.

Here are a few of their findings:

– A man’s IQ does not determine his earning capacity over the lifetime

– Alcoholism is detrimental any way you spin it- to your health, relationships, and cognitive functioning

– Men who were Liberals had more vibrant sex lives well into old age versus conservatives. This is fascinating!

– There is a powerful correlation between the warmth in your relationships and health and happiness in your later years. So start hugging it out!

Read the full article now to learn more about the changes you can make today for a long and happy life.

What changes are you most likely to make? What are your priorities? Share your choices below in the comments section!