Vlog: Do Less to Get More

No, that’s not a typo! When you do less, you can get more of the things you really want in your life! Sometimes you have to get back down to your foundation in order to build a skyscraper. Hear my examples in this vlog – and share yours below in the comments!

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Seminar Countdown!

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With only 7 days until the start of the Build Your Best Self seminar, I wanted to do a 12-days of Christmas-isque countdown. See 6 and 7 below:

Day 7

There are 7 days in a week. Each day provides us with a new opportunity to focus our intention, find clarity in action, and pursue our greatest desires. What did you do in your last 7 days? Come join us to find your focus!

6 Days until the Build Your Best Self seminar:

Experts say we are all connected by 6 degrees of separation. But even with the people we already know, doesn’t it feel like we’re separated by even more? It can be really difficult to open up to the ones we love and speak our truth. We have fears of rejection, seeming needy, and feeling vulnerable. In order to Build Your Best Self, you need to rally the support of those in your life. You need to learn to communicate effectively, ask for what you need, and speak from the heart. Have trouble doing that? See you May 1st then.

Find out more information about the seminar on my vlog and email me at brittany.drozd@gmail.com!

Super Saturday

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This Saturday did not turn out like I wanted it to- and I mean that in a good way! 

Ever have those days when you prepare the night beforehand to wake up early, be super productive, eat cleanly, and put some check marks on that to-do list? 

Yup, that was my Friday night. Everything was going to go smoothly on Saturday.

Yeah right! Fast forward to this morning- Slept in, casually made breakfast, went shopping, cooked a big lunch.

At 4pm I looked at my to-do list, disappointed that I had failed at my “productive day”.

This was my window of opportunity– either see today as a failure or enjoy all the down time I had in the morning and make the most of the evening ahead.

Right away I grabbed my yoga mat and headed out the door. At the front of the yoga class sat Ganesha- remover of obstacles (see pic above). I had been to this class several times, and never really noticed it before. But today, I kept Ganesha in my mind and intentions throughout the class.

I thought about this: so often we are our own worst enemies– our own obstacles to happiness and success. We’re overwhelmed by to-do lists, distracted by all of our demands, and find ourselves spinning in a world we don’t recognize. This definitely does not lead to feelings of success and happiness at the end of the day. 

When we slow down and ask ourselves what we really want or need, the next step often presents itself. For me, it was yoga. Allowing myself to forsake my to-do list and indulge in some self care brought me greater happiness immediately!

And from there, my indulgences just flowed…and eventually led to baking cookies! 

At the end of the day, my to-do list has no check marks, I didn’t eat kale, and I wasn’t too productive. So what?! Sometimes you need to feed the soul and re-evaluate what a successful and productive day really means. Choosing happiness and rejecting negativity can make all the difference- no matter what you did today! 

What window of opportunity did you have to choose the outcome of your day? What would you do differently next time? Share below!

Caretaker Syndrome

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Ever feel that some of your relationships resemble the picture above? You- taking care of a person who is supposed to be your spouse, partner, equal, peer?

Do you have days when talking with this person is more of a chore than an asset to your day?

Ever feel so exhausted by all the giving, listening, and care-taking you do for others that you don’t have time to take care of yourself?

Want this to be different? Want to be taken care of too?

You first have to ask yourself ‘How is this relationship serving you?’

There’s a good chance that you’re getting something out of serving others. Maybe it’s a way to be close to the people we’re taking care of, giving your life more purpose, or giving you something to complain about with others (this can be valid too!).

No, I’m not talking about taking care of Great Aunt Margaret. I’m talking about the relationships in your life that seem like you’re the one doing all the giving, and when the tables are turned, this person is not there to listen, support, and validate your needs as well.

Get what you want out of the relationship by making the following changes:

Take inventory- notice the times when you feel drained after being with this person. What was talked about? What happened? How do you feel after leaving that situation?

Ask for what you want- These people aren’t mind readers! Tell them what you need and see what happens. PS- this will be a pivotal point in the relationship!

Learn from a taker- Make sure you’re not draining others with your emotional needs. Ask yourself ‘Is the conversation balanced? Am I listening? When do I give back to them?’ 

Ever been in a relationship or friendship like this? Share your story below! How did it change? Or did it have to end?

Happiness is a State of Mind

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I don’t get outside often enough in the winter. But when I do, I’m very grateful for the experience. During winter, I hear people complaining all the time about the weather, the snow, how terrible it is to live in a cold climate, etc. Yes, I’m guilty of some of these statements too.

But you know what? They are just excuses! Excuses not to be happy. Excuses not to enjoy our day. Excuses not to appreciate the beauty of winter and snow. Excuses not to take responsibility for the choice we made to live where we do.

No, I don’t expect you to wake up everyday feeling full of gratitude for every single thing in your life. But this is what I expect of you:

Take responsibility for your own happiness.

Choose to appreciate versus disregard the beauty in your life.

Recognize your life’s abundance.

Here’s how I met my own expectations today! How did you meet yours? Leave a comment below!

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be your best self,

Brittany

Good News: You can buy happiness!

We’ve all heard that money can’t buy happiness – so Michael Norton tested this. And it turns out you can buy happiness! But it all depends on how you spend it. The Harvard professor found that when we spend money on other people, it makes us happier than if we had spent it on ourselves. He also found this carried over into work life and with sports teams.

So who will you spend your money on this Black Friday?

Shorten Your To-Do List Right Now!

Happy Friday! Are you getting ready to enjoy your weekend? Or are you dreading it knowing all the stuff you have to get done?

Sometimes we feel so bogged down by our to-do list, it’s impossible to be present and enjoy the time really do have for ourselves. What if we could reframe this to our “Want to-do list” versus our “Have to-do list”? What if we owned the fact that we are indeed choosing to do the things on that list, and no one is actually forcing us? Our thoughts >motivations > and actions would definitely change!

John Morgan is an inspiring, thinker, coach, and motivational speaker whose video is challenging us to see it differently. Learn more about John and Hero Club at http://herojourneys.com/hero-club/

Now check out his video about to shorten your To-Do list!

“Breathe in the…

“Breathe in the future, breathe out the past”

This quote reminds me to be present. In the moment. To let go of the worry and regret that often plague us as we consider our future and lament our past. I’ve read (from many sources) that anxiety is thought to be the result of a conflict when thinking about your future; and depression is the result of conflict when thinking about your past.

As a psychotherapist, I don’t believe that the manifestation of anxiety and depression are so simply. And I don’t believe that just being present will completely resolve those conflicts for people. However, our lack of presence as a society many be correlated to the higher incidences of anxiety and depression than seen in other countries.

So what can we do about it? Everyone experiences thousands of thoughts running through minds daily. Some thoughts come and go quickly. Others stay with us a little bit longer. Others elicit an emotional response which may make us angry, anxious, or sad. What if we were just an observer to our thoughts? All of thoughts. Whether happy or sad. What if we breathed our thought in, paused, and breathed it right out? How might that change our thought trajectories throughout the day. How might it impact the emotions or reactions we would have had? How might it make more room for the present if we were to let go of the anxiety and depression we held on to from the past and the future?

Mediation is an admittedly difficult practice. I struggle every time! It only takes a matter of seconds before I start dreaming of cupcakes and my to-do list. But we can simply remind ourselves to be and observer of our thoughts and push ‘reset’. And then do that again. And again. Until we can gradually lengthen the time in between our ‘resets’. Below is a link to more helpful tips on starting your meditation practice. Tell us how you did in our comments sections below!

http://www.artofliving.org/us-en/meditation/meditation-for-you/get-started-with-meditation

Sending presence your way,

Brittany

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