FEAR

FEAR

What do you let FEAR stop you from achieving? I used to let fear stop me from starting my own business and giving clients 100% of my energy, attention, and efforts. One day, I took a leap of faith. It … Continue reading

Food for Thought

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I’m away on vacation right now (yay!) which has allowed for a lot of reading I’ve been meaning to catch up on. Currently open is a book by Susan Thesenga called The Undefended Self. This book identifies our different levels of consciousness and desires as the lower self (where all the negativity and anger hang out), higher self (our spiritual and inherently good self), and mask (our defenses and what we show others). I was struck by a quote in the book that has stuck with me for a few days now:

“The call for the soul to grow spiritually comes to us in the form of our personal longings. Every human being longs for something we believe will make our lives more fulfilling. This may come to us as longing for deep mutuality with a mate, or for meaningful work, or for a more loving family. Or our desires may be spiritual fulfillment, for a deeper relationship with God, or to connect to the environment around us. Behind these specific desires is a feeling or a sensing that another more fulfilling state of consciousness and a larger capacity to experience life must exist.”

What an amazing and unifying thought- that we could all be connected through this longing for fulfillment. Although we may be seeking fulfillment in different ways, each one of our higher selves wants to be better and get more out of this life. Can we help each other achieve that? Can we help ourselves succeed? 

Tell us below in the comment box what you need for greater fulfillment! How will you get it?

Increase Your Value

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Would you buy something that’s really cheap and probably doesn’t live up to its promises? Or, would you buy something very expensive that probably is overpriced and exceeds what you need?

Exactly! No! Whether we’re shopping for a new phone or a partner, we’re always looking for value. We want something that has longevity and is of quality, but don’t want to overpay for it. We’re constantly seeking that sweet spot.

So what’s your value? In your job, as a friend, as a partner?

Ever feel that you work really hard, but your efforts aren’t being recognized? Feel that you deserve better than what you have in life? Maybe it’s time to raise your value.

Value is a product of economics – a direct relation of supply and demand. If the supply is limited, than the demand is likely to increase. And if demand is increasing and supply is limited, than the thing (which could be you!) becomes more valuable.

So what do I mean “limit your supply?”

Have you ever wanted to get ahead at work? So you volunteered to stay late, said “yes” to all your boss’s requests, and watched someone else get that promotion? How could the boss have chosen that guy who doesn’t do anything extra and makes his own demands?

Ever been so infatuated with someone that you were willing to clear your schedule at his or her beckon call? Who hasn’t?! How did that work out? My guess is that it didn’t.

Interested in changing that? Want to get what you want without working so hard for it? Take control of your future by taking back the reigns on your priorities. 

What are your priorities in life? Right now. This second.

So when you stay for extra hours at work, what happens to your priorities? When you don’t take care of something you need to in order to see that person you can live without, where are your priorities?

You, your goals, and your dreams are very important, so treat them that way! If you’re willing to drop everything for others, it sends the message that, indeed you’re not very important and therefore have a low value. That guy who’s not willing to do more for free or can’t meet up with you on the drop of a hat is sending the message that he’s more valuable than that! 

So which guy/girl do you want to be?

-Reevaluate your priorities

-Don’t put your needs last

-And always ask yourself “is this aligned with my goals?”

This will allow you to increase your value to get what you really want in your life! What are you doing now to get what you want? What hasn’t worked for you? Share it below now!

What’s your vision?

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So you made a New Year’s resolution and a week in it’s already difficult to remember it and stay on track. You’re not alone. 

How can you make your goals an everyday part of your life?

 Visual ques. Take a note from your friends on Pinterest and create a vision board!

What’s a vision board? Anything that is inspiring, related to your goals, and encourages you to get after it!

Above is an example of a men’s fitness vision board (or porn for women, whichever!). If you’re looking for aesthetic results from health and fitness, then this is a great vision board for you.

Looking for something different? Below are some great goal categories to consider. Pick no more than 3 visions for your vision board; any more would be confusing.

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Put your vision board somewhere where you will see it! In your office, on the fridge, or in your car to see on the way to work. Make sure it’s in a place that you will see it EVERYDAY!

Above all else, you vision board should reflect who you authentically are and what you really want in life! Choose pictures that motivate you immediately and make you strive to be your best self!

Already have a vision board? Submit a picture or a link to it below! Need help formulating your vision? Contact me for a free consultation!

Happy New Year!

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Happy 2014 Everyone!

Out with the old and in with the New You! What are you going to do this year to make 2014 your best year?

Since it’s January 1st, I know some of you must have thought about your resolutions already. So let’s hear them! I’m always looking for new ideas, and I love hearing from readers!

Anyone out there have a health and wellness goal? If so, check out Mind Body Green’s website for endless tips on nutrition, mindfulness, and fitness. I learn new tricks all the time on there, so check it out! 

What’s my New Year’s resolution? To eat 1 cup of greens (kale, arugula, or spinach) a day. I make so many goals and achievement plans in my work, fitness, etc. that I needed a resolution that takes better care of me. Because without me, I’m lost! 

Share your resolutions and plans to achieve them below!

Serious About Change: Dr. McKaila Allcorn

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Meet Dr. McKaila Allcorn. She is just like the rest of us in that she’s a daughter, wife, and has a demanding job.

But she’s different from us in a few ways too. McKaila had the discipline and commitment to significantly change her body, and as a result, improve her life! 

So, what was the last straw McKaila?

“I had trained for 3 months to run a half marathon with some friends. I had been running several times per week and pushed myself during the race, only to find that I had lost 1 pound throughout the whole process! I know there had to be a better way to lose weight and get healthy.”

Like many of us, McKaila wanted better for herself and needed to change her ways. She had been busy in medical school and her residency at Kent Hospital, and let her health become less of a priority. But continuing on this path was a not an option for her if she was going to live the life she wanted and help care for others who are sick as an ER doctor.

So what did you do?

“I am from Oklahoma and had a friend back home that had talked with me about this product called Juice Plus+. So I did my research and found that I was going to have to significantly change my diet if I was going get healthy and lose weight.” Juice Plus+ provides whole food nutrition in a capsule so you can get the fruits and vegetables your body needs to run most effectively. It’s then next best thing to actual fruits and vegetables for a busy lifestyle.

McKaila says she loves this product because they provide nutrition plans and education. This knowledge can empower sustainable change for people’s diets. Additionally, the nutrition plan encourages you to try several different diets, such as gluten free, vegan, vegetarian, etc. That way, you can see what your body responds to, and cater your meal planning from there.  All diets aren’t right for everyone, so find the plan that works for you and get after it!

But it wasn’t just supplements that changed McKaila’s body. Not even close! Real foods and preparation are requirements! McKaila said she would cook several meals on Sundays and package them up so she’d be ready for work, snacks, and any other time that would tempt her away from her goals.

McKaila said she notice a big energy boost after making these changes – along with better skin, and friends who had reported getting off medications because of the positive effect real foods had on them.

So as long as I eat right I’ll have these results?

Wrong again! McKaila said she was also in search for something that would nourish her physically, mentally, and spiritually. Yoga. Several times a week, no excuses. Rain or shine. “If you’re going to make a real lifestyle change, you have to be consistent. It can’t just be when you feel like it.” McKaila is currently training to become a yoga teacher and share with others the positive experience she’s had with yoga and it’s supportive community at Laughing Elephant yoga in East Greenwich.

Any tips for the rest of us? 

“Find your motivation. Mine was my long-term health. I used positive self-talk to get through those tough days.” Time management is very important too. Make sure to make a date with healthy cooking and the gym that you won’t flake out on!

Doctor McKaila mentions that obesity is a risk factor for so many diseases and conditions that are life threatening. So don’t be a victim – get healthy, get active and regain control of your life!

 What are your health and fitness goals for 2014? Will YOU be the next person we feature for Serious About Change?

Core Desired Feelings: feel the way you want to feel!

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As the Holidays come and go, we’re left with the aftermath of harried shopping sprees, over eating, and gatherings with those we love and loathe.  So what now? 

It seems that everyone’s already talking about New Year’s resolutions and I still can’t even see straight after the holiday madness! So before you starting trying to formulate how 2014 is going to be “different”, I ask you to consider this:

Did you get what you really wanted this holiday season?

No, I don’t mean that new video game or tech toy. I mean life wise – do you feel truly fulfilled in your life? When you wake up, do you look forward to your day? Or dread all that you have to do today? Do you love those you are surrounded by? Or do you want a do-over?

Wish that were different? Want to better/fulfilled/desired? Make it happen!

Danielle Laporte does an awesome job of outlining how to get from here to your feeling your best ever! Follow these tips to jumpstart living your core desired feelings now:

Make word slop of how you want to feel: Take a blank piece of paper and write down your ideal feelings. These should be optimistic, positive, and loving feelings. Go nuts!

Narrow it down to 3-5 core desired feelings. You will need the focus in order to move forward with this.

– Ask yourself What does ______ feel like? Write down your answers for each core desired feeling. This should give you clarity!

Activate the feelings! Write down 3 things you can do today/this week/this month to generate [enter core desired feeling here].

– Do it now! What are you waiting for? Take back the control of your life to stop the spinning, feelings of overwhelm, and numbness that all too often stop you for being your best self!

For more details check out Danielle’s worksheet for identifying, implementing, and activating those feelings now! Work with me for strategic, detailed, and disciplined approach to making this ideal your reality!

What Success Really Looks Like

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I hear this all the time: “I tried to change but it’s not working.” “I keep trying but nothing is changing.” Etcetera, etcetera. Look people, if whatever it is took years to ‘break’ then it’s not going to be completely fixed overnight!

Most people have a linear picture of what success looks like in their heads. And that makes sense for the most part – If someone is successful, they mostly likely have small achievements on a daily basis.

But I like to reality-check that idea with this saying: “an overnight success is really an everyday hustler.” Meaning….this person didn’t become successful in a snap! They’ve worked years to get where they are! 

One of my favorite examples of this is GoPro cameras. You see these awesome sports cameras everywhere in 2013! But what most people don’t know is that the founder first got this idea in 2000! He has been working his butt off for 2013 years to make this a household item! 13 years!!! What have you worked on relentlessly for 13 years? Yeah, I know… me neither.

The point of this is not to make us all feel bad and lazy, but to recognize that each time we keep trying, each effort we make to reach our goals, is still putting on the path for success. We learn from every experience we have, whether we think it came out great or poorly. We gain strength from each time we get back on the horse and give it another go.

Success can largely be attributed to a frame a mind. As said by Tony Robbins:

“People who fail focus on what they will have to go through; people who succeed focus on what it will feel like at the end.” 

So when you’ve been knock off track and feel like you will never achieve change or success, quit focusing on the small steps and get back in touch with your big picture. 

What does your goal look like? What will it feel like when you get there? Share your goals below in the comment section now!

Good News: You can buy happiness!

We’ve all heard that money can’t buy happiness – so Michael Norton tested this. And it turns out you can buy happiness! But it all depends on how you spend it. The Harvard professor found that when we spend money on other people, it makes us happier than if we had spent it on ourselves. He also found this carried over into work life and with sports teams.

So who will you spend your money on this Black Friday?

So Thankful!

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In the midst of the holiday season we’re traveling, cooking, shopping, and being busy bees! With so much going on, it can be so easy to lose sight of the real celebration- our abundance. We have so much to be thankful for, but we hardly have the time to sit down and think about all that we have in our lives.

So my Thanksgiving starts now with a list of what I’m thankful for:

– My job: allowing me to share my gift with others and helping them become their best self!

– My family: for always being supportive and loving in whatever I wanted to do!

– My health: feeling good and strengthening my body with good food and fitness

– My husband: my always being my partner in crime and supporting my dreams

– My abundance: I have so much in my life, more than I need. And I’m thankful for that. But I also understand that’s why I need to give back. I make every effort to bring my best self to the table everyday for those I work with, serve, and love. I deserve it, and you deserve it for me!

So what are you thankful for this year? What kinds of abundance do you have in your life?

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!