You’re not Perfect! [neither am i]

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Bloggers! I have missed you…. but not forgotten about you! 

Last week was the busiest week at my practice (saw so many clients!), had the first session of the Build Your Best Self seminar, and attended a 3-day intensive training for Core Energetics (part of my 2-year program). I’M TIRED!!!

Yes, I’ve been slacking on my blogging. My goal is to connect with you at least 3 times per week on here, but that just didn’t happen last week. And it might not happen this week. And that’s okay 🙂

That’s okay ????!! [Did I really just say that?] Yes!!!!!!!! A few years ago I would have NEVER actively admitted to not achieving something I set out to do. Never mind calling attention to it on a blog post! Have I lost my mind?? [don’t answer that :)]

No I haven’t! I want to make it okay for everyone to admit to the same! I’m not perfect, and I’m never going to be. I have this idealized image of myself that I’m never going to reach. And I’m fine with that. Because that idealized self doesn’t schedule much time for fun, works too much, and doesn’t account for real-life mishaps. 

If we feed into the idealized self, we create unrealistic working environments and goals that often lead to disappointment and discouragement to keep trying. Ever worked in a place where salaried employees were working 50-60 hours weekly instead of the intended 40 hours? That happens when one person tries to met an unreasonable demand, and eventually it becomes the norm. Now you have a culture that’s built on overworking and undervalued free time. Not good for the employees or the company itself. 

The US has a disproportionate amount of burn out, workplace accidents, and suicides. I think this idealized self could be the culprit. We need to make it okay for each other not to work towards unrealistic goals and levels of achievement that hinder real life experiences.

Only once we are honest with ourselves can we begin to look at affecting realistic, positive changes to better our lives. I’ll go first:

I’m not perfect. I won’t be able to achieve all the goals I set for myself. Most days I don’t finish my to-do list. I’m human, and I keep trying.

Now it’s your turn! Get real with yourself and others. Stop aiming towards your idealized self and reach for something tangible, realistic, and authentic. Get real in the comments below! Tell us about your idealized self and what’s gotta go! 

Moving towards my best self,

Brittany

Recovering to Good Health

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It’s sad but true: there is a stigma attached to mental health. Especially for men.

What would you’re road to good health look like if this weren’t the case? What could you overcome if you reached out for help? 

Read my friend Josh Bird’s excellent article on mental health and fitness for men. Check out his shout-out to me too!

http://crossfitprovidence.com/2014/04/23/recovering-to-good-health/

Find Your Passion!

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Do you have a friend who is always excited to tell you about their new workout program? How about a relative that’s posting pictures of their nutritious meals? A colleague who is so stoked about their recent promotion?

Yeah, you know these people. They’re usually the ones we love to hate. But have you ever asked yourself, “Why are you hating on this guy?” These people are generally positive, optimistic, and fun loving. So what do you have against them?

Their Passion!

These people have a passion for something- whether it’s the gym, a sunny day, or making a positive change in their life.

So when you’re down in the dumps, it’s easy to hate on these people for their optimism. But really, we’re jealous! The real you says “I want that enthusiasm, energy, and spirit! I want to be that passionate about something!”

So how do you find passion?

  1. The first key to finding your passion is understanding passion. Passion is defined as a strong and compelling emotion, feeling, or desire. Passion can come in the form of positive and negative, such as love and hate. If you’ve ever been really opposed to a new policy or legislation, you can relate to a negative form of passion. It’s important to understand that both forms of passion can be fulfilling.
  1. What turns you on? The second key to finding your passion is paying attention to what turns you on. What gets you excited? What activity leaves you with more energy? What would you do if money were no object? List your answers to these questions in simple, one-word columns. What patterns do you see in the responses? Try to create categories from there to narrow it down.
  1. Discipline is the third key to your passion. What are you willing to wake up at 6am for? What do you make sure you do daily or weekly no matter how busy you are? What is something you feel you can’t live without doing in your life? Again, list your one-word answers and look for patterns and categories. Are any similar to your answers to #2?
  1. What do you want to change? What do you wish was different about the world? What do you want to change in your life? Less stressful job? Travel more? Connect better to friends and family? When we notice we want to change something in our own lives, we often find that’s true for others as well. Suddenly, your desire for change is authenticated and supported by many others in your circle. When we see a need that could potentially benefit hundreds of lives, we can find the energy to bring it to fruition. Use the answers from this section to compare to #2 and #3. 

Now what?

What common threads did you find in your answers? Start looking there for a theme or category that you really connect with. Then try it out! The truth is you never really know what your passionate about until you give it a chance. Maybe your were certain you would love working in healthcare, but you tried it out and it was much different than you thought it would be. Then try again! You can always return to your list for more inspiration.

Grow your list as well! This isn’t something that will remain stagnant, and will change as you grow and explore yourself and your surroundings.

Let go of feeling like you have to have all the answers about your greatest passions and pursuing your life’s dreams. The benefits of passions and dreams are in the journey, not necessarily the destination. 

Already found a passion? Share it below! You never know who you’ll inspire!!

How your FEAR won’t let you Win!

We all use information from past experiences, our emotions, and needs to make decisions and take action. Our decisions are usually made based on fear or love. But we don’t like to call it fear (because that would be embarrassing!). Instead, we feel self-doubt, frustration, anger, jealousy.

But wouldn’t it be nice to act from a place of love? Real, sustainable change can only happen when we change our motivation to act from fear to love.

How has fear stopped you from taking action towards your goals? When did you regret doing something out of fear?

If you’ve already made this change, how are you acting out of love now? Share your story below to inspire others!

Vlog: Why you’ll never find clarity

How many self-help books have you read, experts you’d consulted, and methods have you tried to find clarity?! Still not “clear”? That’s what I thought. Find out what no one tells you about gaining clarity, but is the one thing that works!

Making Space for Stillness

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Meditation, presence, and quieting the mind have all been central themes in my work and personal life lately.

There seems to be this franticness that a lot of people are carrying around with them. A franticness that they need to figure out something big– like a career path or finding a partner. And the franticness serves to speed up the process because it must happen very soon or else…..

They might die. Their life will be over. They will never the thing they really want in life. 

This all sounds really dire and tragic, right? But is it true or real? Will you really die if your career path doesn’t look as planned? Will your life be over if you don’t find a partner before age 35? Is life really not worth living if you don’t have the bank account you thought you would by now? 

Picture spinning a top (the toy). Imagine that with each spin, we dive further and further into our own head and thoughts about how life should be, the things we should have, and what you need in order to be happy. And with each spin, you are fed more and more marketing about what society tells you that you should want and need. 

How would you get out of this situation and stop the spinning? 

This place is bred from scarcity and fear. When we feel we don’t have enough or are afraid, we are much more susceptible to messaging from the outside world and trust that more than ourselves. You have to disavow scarcity and fear within yourself to overcome the spinning.

How do I do that?

Before you can replace the scarcity and fear with something that actually serves you, you must first create the space for the inspiration and exploration of something new. The space will first be filled with stillness- a quieted mind, free from judgment and franticness. In the stillness you will find new ideas, feelings, and sensations coming up for you. Look, listen, and feel those things for all they can offer you. 

Find the stillness through meditation, yoga, prayer, singing, dancing or any other way that serves you. 

Share your practice below to inspire others 🙂

 

Be your best self today,

Brittany

Super Saturday

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This Saturday did not turn out like I wanted it to- and I mean that in a good way! 

Ever have those days when you prepare the night beforehand to wake up early, be super productive, eat cleanly, and put some check marks on that to-do list? 

Yup, that was my Friday night. Everything was going to go smoothly on Saturday.

Yeah right! Fast forward to this morning- Slept in, casually made breakfast, went shopping, cooked a big lunch.

At 4pm I looked at my to-do list, disappointed that I had failed at my “productive day”.

This was my window of opportunity– either see today as a failure or enjoy all the down time I had in the morning and make the most of the evening ahead.

Right away I grabbed my yoga mat and headed out the door. At the front of the yoga class sat Ganesha- remover of obstacles (see pic above). I had been to this class several times, and never really noticed it before. But today, I kept Ganesha in my mind and intentions throughout the class.

I thought about this: so often we are our own worst enemies– our own obstacles to happiness and success. We’re overwhelmed by to-do lists, distracted by all of our demands, and find ourselves spinning in a world we don’t recognize. This definitely does not lead to feelings of success and happiness at the end of the day. 

When we slow down and ask ourselves what we really want or need, the next step often presents itself. For me, it was yoga. Allowing myself to forsake my to-do list and indulge in some self care brought me greater happiness immediately!

And from there, my indulgences just flowed…and eventually led to baking cookies! 

At the end of the day, my to-do list has no check marks, I didn’t eat kale, and I wasn’t too productive. So what?! Sometimes you need to feed the soul and re-evaluate what a successful and productive day really means. Choosing happiness and rejecting negativity can make all the difference- no matter what you did today! 

What window of opportunity did you have to choose the outcome of your day? What would you do differently next time? Share below!

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Find out more information about my 4-week seminar by contacting me on this website or via email at brittany.drozd@gmail.com!

Be brave enough to take the risk to build a better you!

RI Fit Magazine

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Check out my article on Change Vs. Progress in RI Fit Magazine page 54!

Heard of RI Fit Magazine? They are RI’s hottest and healthiest new resource for fitness, wellness, and overall health. Check out their April issue online or in print for FREE at hundreds of locations in and around Rhode Island. The best part is that they feature local Rhode Islander’s that are fit and motivating! You’ll probably see someone featured that you already know! #smallstate #RIproud

 

Law of Attraction

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Do you believe in the law of attraction? That “like attracts like”. That by focusing on a positive thought or energy can actually bring positivity into your life?

Oh, so you’re a skeptic, huh? That’s fine. I see people like you all the time. They’re usually the ones jealous of others, depressed about their own life, and don’t know how to get what others have. I’m not saying that’s you… but maybe it is?

Do you have that friend or acquaintance that seems to keep winning the lottery over and over again? He seems to have the best life, keeps getting promoted, and is always smiling? Yeah, the one you love to hate. 

What does he have that you don’t?

Well, lets start with the smile: Studies show that even if we force ourselves to smile, there is a positive chemical response in our bodies; therefore resulting in you feeling happier. When you smile, other people smile back at you. Amazing! I’m saying that if you exude positivity, then it will come right back at you!! Who wouldn’t want that?

Want to feel more connected to the important people in your life? Your partner, family, close friends? What are you doing now to create those connections? Who have you called out of the blue today? Did you send your partner an unexpected text/email about how much they mean to you? Oh don’t have time for that? Right. If you can’t make time to give your love to the people who mean the most to you, I have no idea what you could be doing that’s more important!

It may feel awkward at first, but the more regularly you practice sending love and positivity, the more natural it will feel. If you feel it in your heart already, then it naturally wants to come out. Stop blocking love! Anndddd I’m not a psychic, but I would bet that you will get more love and positivity sent your way in return! Now who’s feeling warm and fuzzy?!

But this isn’t just about love and positivity. The Law of Attraction can be used to attract health, money, and confidence too.

Want to improve your health? Spend time working on it, educating yourself on the topic, and surrounding yourself with others doing the same thing. It won’t be long before you’ve made lifestyle changes for a healthier you. 

I often use the phrase “be your best self.” The Law of Attraction is imperative to this phrase. You can only become your best self by radiating positivity, actively pursuing improvement, and creating opportunities for success. When all these things come flying back at you (law of attraction), it will be impossible to stop you from growing to become your best self. 

By this point, you’re either feeling inspired or frustrated that I’ve outlined this task for you to attract positivity. The inspired may start smiling more today. While the frustrated will continue to scoff at the unlikelihood that the Law of Attraction is even possible. Which will you be? And in return, which will you attract?

sending positivity your way,

Brittany