Turn Your Wishes into Reality

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Do you ever feel…

  • Not good enough?
  • Unfulfilled by what you do have?
  • Not happy when you think you should be?
  • You’re living without intention?
  • Overwhelmed, spinning, and can’t get ahead?

Sound familiar? Want it to be different? 

Real change is possible when we can identify who we really are, what we want, and eliminate obstacles in our way! This 4-week seminar will supply the tools to make real change possible in your life. 

Being limited to 10 people will allow for more time to work on you and get what you need out of it. 

By the end of this series, you will…

  • Develop your Life Aim
  • Nail down specific and focused goals
  • Identify what’s serving you; and get rid of what’s not!
  • Build the self care you need to succeed
  • Have a greater sense of clarity in your life
  • Ask for what you really want, and have a plan to get it!

Not sure if this is what you need? Ask questions in the comment section below, or call (401.441.1626) or email (brittany.drozd@gmail.com) to contact me directly! 

What did you do today to bring you closer to your dreams?

– Brittany

Law of Attraction

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Do you believe in the law of attraction? That “like attracts like”. That by focusing on a positive thought or energy can actually bring positivity into your life?

Oh, so you’re a skeptic, huh? That’s fine. I see people like you all the time. They’re usually the ones jealous of others, depressed about their own life, and don’t know how to get what others have. I’m not saying that’s you… but maybe it is?

Do you have that friend or acquaintance that seems to keep winning the lottery over and over again? He seems to have the best life, keeps getting promoted, and is always smiling? Yeah, the one you love to hate. 

What does he have that you don’t?

Well, lets start with the smile: Studies show that even if we force ourselves to smile, there is a positive chemical response in our bodies; therefore resulting in you feeling happier. When you smile, other people smile back at you. Amazing! I’m saying that if you exude positivity, then it will come right back at you!! Who wouldn’t want that?

Want to feel more connected to the important people in your life? Your partner, family, close friends? What are you doing now to create those connections? Who have you called out of the blue today? Did you send your partner an unexpected text/email about how much they mean to you? Oh don’t have time for that? Right. If you can’t make time to give your love to the people who mean the most to you, I have no idea what you could be doing that’s more important!

It may feel awkward at first, but the more regularly you practice sending love and positivity, the more natural it will feel. If you feel it in your heart already, then it naturally wants to come out. Stop blocking love! Anndddd I’m not a psychic, but I would bet that you will get more love and positivity sent your way in return! Now who’s feeling warm and fuzzy?!

But this isn’t just about love and positivity. The Law of Attraction can be used to attract health, money, and confidence too.

Want to improve your health? Spend time working on it, educating yourself on the topic, and surrounding yourself with others doing the same thing. It won’t be long before you’ve made lifestyle changes for a healthier you. 

I often use the phrase “be your best self.” The Law of Attraction is imperative to this phrase. You can only become your best self by radiating positivity, actively pursuing improvement, and creating opportunities for success. When all these things come flying back at you (law of attraction), it will be impossible to stop you from growing to become your best self. 

By this point, you’re either feeling inspired or frustrated that I’ve outlined this task for you to attract positivity. The inspired may start smiling more today. While the frustrated will continue to scoff at the unlikelihood that the Law of Attraction is even possible. Which will you be? And in return, which will you attract?

sending positivity your way,

Brittany

Happy Sunday!

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Happy Soul Sunday to all of you!

It’s a beautiful sunny day here in Rhode Island. But no matter where in the world you are, it’s a beautiful day to reset, renew, and restore for the week ahead.

Who has started Spring Cleaning already? Me too! It’s unbelievable how many material things we accumulate. I moved a year ago and had the opportunity to get rid of all the crap I didn’t need. So I find it astounding that only 1 year later, here I am with the same problem.

The funny part is that when we’re buying all this “stuff” we totally 100% believe that we need this item or really want that thing. But the truth is the need or want are really just masks and lies.

You will always get everything that you need. Sometimes no more than that, but always enough. How do I know that? Well, tell me a time when you didn’t have all that you really needed to survive. Please, do tell me in the comments below if you’ve been through a time like that.

We get stuck in the mask of “I need this” or “if I only had that…I’d be happy. Or “…I’d be fulfilled.” Or “…I’d be [fill in the blank with your core desired feeling].” But these are only lies we tell ourselves.

What we need to be happy will never come from the Apple store or Nordstroms. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. But it’s true.

We have to consciously and actively create and pursue happiness in and by way of ourselves. You have to be aware of your life aim. You have to make goals. You have to take chances and move towards your fears. You have to go outside of your comfort zone, and you have to go inside of your heart to find out what you really need.

Today I took to time to nourish my body with exercise, my my mind with organization and cleaning, and my spirit with laughter and friends. This made me so much happier than buying new shoes!

Don’t believe me? Try it for yourself! Clearly your old methods of trying to obtain happiness and fulfillment aren’t working. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this blog! 

Make today and every Sunday a place to get rid of what’s not serving you and make space for nourishment, restoration, and something new in your life. Create your best self in the process.

– Brittany

Check out this blog!

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Check out this hilarious, straight forward, and real-life blog! I don’t often recommend other blogs. But when I do, trust me, they’re good! 

More specifically, check out his article “16 ways I blew my marriage”. We can ALL benefit from acknowledging the behaviors he calls attention to, and recommended “do over” approaches. 

http://www.danoah.com/2012/10/16-ways-i-blew-my-marriage.html

What do you think? Share your comments below!

Change Vs. Progress

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 “Only two things in life are certain – death and taxes.” Heard this before? Definitely rings true during tax season! But I’d like to propose that something else is certain as well:

Change.

While it often seems that we’re stuck in a rut, we know that change will come. Why? Because it has every time before! We used to be little, then we grew. We used to have flip phones, now we have iPhones.  We used to have no clue about our health, now we’re educated on how to be healthy.

 We know change is coming; yet we still talk about making changes as if it’s some elusive challenge. Change is certain. Progress is not.

So what’s progress? Progress in your fitness? Nutrition? Overall health? If change is anything different from the status quo, then progress is a change that is more specific, goal-oriented, and measurable. 

Progress is a measure of relativity. You’re moving towards change in a specific direction. Movement on that trajectory is identified as progress. If you altered your habits to lose weight, but it resulted in weight gain, this is change but not progress. If you started a healthy diet to lose weight, and we’re gradually losing the weight, this is progress.

You need a goal in order to measure progress from change. PS- “I want to be healthy” is not a goal, it’s a statement. Make sure your goal has specifics, a timeline, and is measurable. 

Specifics: Try “I will eat 3 servings of vegetables daily” versus “I will eat healthy”. By articulating the specific thing you will do, you will be more likely to actually do it!

Timeline: Create timeframes, start dates, and deadlines for yourself. Otherwise, your “Someday” will likely never come. Here’s a sample of a timeline – “I will eat 3 servings of vegetables daily for 6 consecutive weeks, beginning March 9th.”

Measurement: How do you know you’re not at your goal already? How do you know if you’re making progress towards your goal? Most importantly, how will you know when you’ve reached your goal? Measurement. This is key to the whole process of making progress and achieving your best self.

Ask yourself these questions to assess your goal for measurability:

–       Can you count it?

–       Can you create a percentage from your results to determine your progress? (i.e. I ate 3 servings of veggies 3 out of 5 days thus far= 60% progress towards goal).

 –       Can you make adjustments to your goal based on your findings from your percentage and experience? (i.e. maybe only 2 servings of veggies daily is more reasonable for you. Maybe 5 days weekly versus 7 is better for you).

*This is not to say that you should lower your standards, but continuing to progress on an adjusted goal is more beneficial than failing miserably on a strict, unattainable goal.

Ok, Let’s go over what we know:

–       We know that change will come. The question is how, when, and in which direction?

–       We know that progress is necessary for improvement, not just change.

–       We need a goal in order to distinguish progress from change.

–       Our goal needs to be specific, have a timeline, and be measurable in order to evaluate progress.

 If you don’t have a plan, you plan to fail. So make a plan, make progress and achieve your goals. This success will build your momentum for future goals and future successes. Progress, not change, is necessary to become your best self

Is your life a disorganized bookshelf?

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‘Is she really comparing my life to a bookshelf?’ you might be asking yourself. The answer is yes. If you’re like me, then your life IS like a disorganized bookshelf.

What do I mean? Our mind works like a series shelves and compartments. We see something, think something, experience something, and then we categorize it. These categories act as compartments and cubbies in our brains- strictly organizing the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors of ourselves and others accordingly.  The categories, compartments, and cubbies are created based on our mental schemas, or mind frames. For instance, if you’re religious, you may believe that premarital sex is bad. That belief acts a blueprint for other thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to be categorized. So if a friend shares something about their relationship, you may categorize them as good or bad based on your pre-developed schema. Got it? 

Make space in your bookshelf. Make space for new ideas, feelings, and a new schema. Think about the schemas and mind frames your parents hold. How are yours similar and different? How did you develop different schemas than your parents on the same principles/thoughts? Your experience! And thank goodness for it! If our thoughts and perspective stayed the same for generations, then we wouldn’t have civil rights and marriage equality. 

So how are the cubbies on your bookshelf serving you? Or not serving you? What categories should you eliminate, combine, or make more room for? Hint: Making more room to explore your rationalization for certain schemas, being open to new schemas, and new labels for healthier schemas is key! Until we accept our need for growth and make it a priority, your bookshelf will appear full and crowded. Get rid of what’s not serving you for some new books (ideas)!

Your bookshelf is for practicing containment. For instance, one cubby of your bookshelf (the self-help section!) may be overflowing with books, going all different directions, and very few have actually been read. Sound familiar? You may have some anxiety around wondering ‘Am I good enough? I feel like an impostor. I’m lacking fulfillment.’  You may have found several things that could be helpful, but you’re not sure what’s actually going to work. Feeling some uncertainty? Overwhelm? So how well can you sit with these feelings- the anxiety, uncertainty, incompetence? My guess is not good. Most of us struggle with these feelings.

What can you do about it? Become an observer of yourself! Take a step back and look at what you do when you experience these feelings. Do you rush out to buy another book or “something that will make the feeling go away?” Observe the feeling and your reactions to it without being judgmental. Take responsibility for the feeling by stating them out loud“I’m don’t feel adequate in my job.”

When you’re immediate remedy doesn’t alleviate the feeling (buying that book), what’s your next move? Tip: placing judgment on yourself or the feeling won’t help here. So don’t hate, appreciate. The feelings are signals. That’s it. Use them as such. What are they really trying to tell you? Tip #2: it’s usually not the surface thing you think it’s telling you. Dig deeper by observing. Contain the feelings not but suppressing them, but by allowing them some space on your bookshelf, acknowledging them (out loud!), and being aware of your reactions to them.

So how will you clean up your bookshelf? Here are some suggestions:

– Get rid of the books (mental schemas) that aren’t serving you. i.e. You’re not good enough, You will never succeed. These aren’t good books, trust me 🙂

– Reorganize the books your want to keep. Know where to find books like You Are Loved and You have support at a moments notice. These are the best books to reread as needed! 

– Leave open space on your bookshelf for future readings. Being open to new ideas about yourself and world requires mental space to do so. So make room for the You that will continue to grow and evolve in your career, relationships, and life. 

Tell us about your mental bookshelf below. How have you organized it for the better? Share your experience now!

Knock it off! (your to-do list, that is)

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Do you have a to-do list that feels like it’s 10 miles long?! Yeah, me too! 

Sometimes it seems that I can’t move past a certain item or task on that list. For instance, an email I just won’t sit down to write. A small task that I can’t do because it’s not fun. A correspondence I keep putting off and putting off because it will be awkward to have.

We can become hyper-focused on the obstacles we see in the situation versus the outcome we are striving for. This is we where you perfectionists and perfectionistas get stuck! You want that email to be perfect and that report to be exceptional, but you’re not getting anywhere! 

I get it though! Our communication, work, and results are all products of us and say a lot about our abilities, skills, and discipline. But what is it saying when you don’t return an email for 3 days waiting for those perfect words to come? Or staying up all night to perfect a report instead of spending time with your partner? Or taking time away from your own self-care to stress about something?

“Done is better than perfect.”

Done means you get to cross it off the to-do list. Done means doing something fun after work. Done means getting that mental energy back for yourself. Done means moving forward. 

Stop creating your own stress and move on! Here are 3 steps to getting over this hurdle:

– Let go of the idealism: if you would accept “good enough” sometimes from others, let that same rule apply to you!

– Promote self-love: Put yourself on your own to-do list; i.e. take a long bath, get a massage, read that book!

– Improve your balance: Not literally! Just make sure tasks and work time are equal to family, friends, and fun.

What are you stuck on right now? What’s your plan to move forward and get stuff done?! Share your story below- it could help someone else out!

What’s your secret?

We all have a story, and we all have secrets that we keep hidden due to shame, ego, or embarrassment. But what would happen if you shared your secret? And owned your truth? Would it set you free?

Watch this video and visit PostSecret.com to see how impactful sharing your secret can be! Which secrets did you connect with? Share your secret below…or tell us that you shared it on PostSecret.com!

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What do you let FEAR stop you from achieving? I used to let fear stop me from starting my own business and giving clients 100% of my energy, attention, and efforts. One day, I took a leap of faith. It … Continue reading

Increase Your Value

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Would you buy something that’s really cheap and probably doesn’t live up to its promises? Or, would you buy something very expensive that probably is overpriced and exceeds what you need?

Exactly! No! Whether we’re shopping for a new phone or a partner, we’re always looking for value. We want something that has longevity and is of quality, but don’t want to overpay for it. We’re constantly seeking that sweet spot.

So what’s your value? In your job, as a friend, as a partner?

Ever feel that you work really hard, but your efforts aren’t being recognized? Feel that you deserve better than what you have in life? Maybe it’s time to raise your value.

Value is a product of economics – a direct relation of supply and demand. If the supply is limited, than the demand is likely to increase. And if demand is increasing and supply is limited, than the thing (which could be you!) becomes more valuable.

So what do I mean “limit your supply?”

Have you ever wanted to get ahead at work? So you volunteered to stay late, said “yes” to all your boss’s requests, and watched someone else get that promotion? How could the boss have chosen that guy who doesn’t do anything extra and makes his own demands?

Ever been so infatuated with someone that you were willing to clear your schedule at his or her beckon call? Who hasn’t?! How did that work out? My guess is that it didn’t.

Interested in changing that? Want to get what you want without working so hard for it? Take control of your future by taking back the reigns on your priorities. 

What are your priorities in life? Right now. This second.

So when you stay for extra hours at work, what happens to your priorities? When you don’t take care of something you need to in order to see that person you can live without, where are your priorities?

You, your goals, and your dreams are very important, so treat them that way! If you’re willing to drop everything for others, it sends the message that, indeed you’re not very important and therefore have a low value. That guy who’s not willing to do more for free or can’t meet up with you on the drop of a hat is sending the message that he’s more valuable than that! 

So which guy/girl do you want to be?

-Reevaluate your priorities

-Don’t put your needs last

-And always ask yourself “is this aligned with my goals?”

This will allow you to increase your value to get what you really want in your life! What are you doing now to get what you want? What hasn’t worked for you? Share it below now!