Vlog: Self Care is Essential!

Happy Monday! Are you coming off of one of those weekends?! You know- the kind where you can’t believe that you got no rest and feel even more tired than on Friday?

The likely culprit…No self care!

Think about it- what did you do for yourself over the weekend? This is not sustainable to not make time for yourself! You deserve to cared for too! Whether it’s a bath, reading a book, or making time for exercise, it all goes into your emotional bank account.

Learn more about the emotional bank account and my self care catalogue in the video! Share your comments and self care success stories below!

You have 2 Options!

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When we are plagued by indecision, overwhelm, or a bad attitude we have 2 options:

Change your Mind or Change the Environment.

The former is the more difficult of the two – but definitely feasible! The latter can also feel like a struggle, but is a real game-changer! Which will you choose?

Change your Mind: Situations, behaviors, and interactions are most often benign. But we are conditioned to attached a thought and then an emotion to the event. See diagram. The resulting thoughts and emotions impact your future behaviors and reactions. 

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You have the power to change this! Once your become more aware of your cognitive and emotional reactions to a situation, you can choose to attach a different meaning to it – a meaning that better serves you!

Change your Environment: It takes a lot of awareness, practice, and emotional control to exercise a cognitive change, like I just described above. Sometimes in the moment it’s best just to move! Ever heard of fight or flight? Well, your situation may not be that serious, but you could still benefit from “fleeing” the situation and changing your environment. Pissed at your boss? Go outside for a walk. Take your lunch break outside of the office. Or go visit a colleague’s cubicle. 

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Take advantage of this great New England weather and increase your Vitamin D with a little sunshine! This can improve anyone’s mood! 

Bottom line: you have two options! Pick on that serves you and run with it! Tell us below which option works best for you? When have you tried using this before? Share comments to spread the love!

– Brittany

You’re not Perfect! [neither am i]

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Bloggers! I have missed you…. but not forgotten about you! 

Last week was the busiest week at my practice (saw so many clients!), had the first session of the Build Your Best Self seminar, and attended a 3-day intensive training for Core Energetics (part of my 2-year program). I’M TIRED!!!

Yes, I’ve been slacking on my blogging. My goal is to connect with you at least 3 times per week on here, but that just didn’t happen last week. And it might not happen this week. And that’s okay 🙂

That’s okay ????!! [Did I really just say that?] Yes!!!!!!!! A few years ago I would have NEVER actively admitted to not achieving something I set out to do. Never mind calling attention to it on a blog post! Have I lost my mind?? [don’t answer that :)]

No I haven’t! I want to make it okay for everyone to admit to the same! I’m not perfect, and I’m never going to be. I have this idealized image of myself that I’m never going to reach. And I’m fine with that. Because that idealized self doesn’t schedule much time for fun, works too much, and doesn’t account for real-life mishaps. 

If we feed into the idealized self, we create unrealistic working environments and goals that often lead to disappointment and discouragement to keep trying. Ever worked in a place where salaried employees were working 50-60 hours weekly instead of the intended 40 hours? That happens when one person tries to met an unreasonable demand, and eventually it becomes the norm. Now you have a culture that’s built on overworking and undervalued free time. Not good for the employees or the company itself. 

The US has a disproportionate amount of burn out, workplace accidents, and suicides. I think this idealized self could be the culprit. We need to make it okay for each other not to work towards unrealistic goals and levels of achievement that hinder real life experiences.

Only once we are honest with ourselves can we begin to look at affecting realistic, positive changes to better our lives. I’ll go first:

I’m not perfect. I won’t be able to achieve all the goals I set for myself. Most days I don’t finish my to-do list. I’m human, and I keep trying.

Now it’s your turn! Get real with yourself and others. Stop aiming towards your idealized self and reach for something tangible, realistic, and authentic. Get real in the comments below! Tell us about your idealized self and what’s gotta go! 

Moving towards my best self,

Brittany