Knock it off! (your to-do list, that is)

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Do you have a to-do list that feels like it’s 10 miles long?! Yeah, me too! 

Sometimes it seems that I can’t move past a certain item or task on that list. For instance, an email I just won’t sit down to write. A small task that I can’t do because it’s not fun. A correspondence I keep putting off and putting off because it will be awkward to have.

We can become hyper-focused on the obstacles we see in the situation versus the outcome we are striving for. This is we where you perfectionists and perfectionistas get stuck! You want that email to be perfect and that report to be exceptional, but you’re not getting anywhere! 

I get it though! Our communication, work, and results are all products of us and say a lot about our abilities, skills, and discipline. But what is it saying when you don’t return an email for 3 days waiting for those perfect words to come? Or staying up all night to perfect a report instead of spending time with your partner? Or taking time away from your own self-care to stress about something?

“Done is better than perfect.”

Done means you get to cross it off the to-do list. Done means doing something fun after work. Done means getting that mental energy back for yourself. Done means moving forward. 

Stop creating your own stress and move on! Here are 3 steps to getting over this hurdle:

– Let go of the idealism: if you would accept “good enough” sometimes from others, let that same rule apply to you!

– Promote self-love: Put yourself on your own to-do list; i.e. take a long bath, get a massage, read that book!

– Improve your balance: Not literally! Just make sure tasks and work time are equal to family, friends, and fun.

What are you stuck on right now? What’s your plan to move forward and get stuff done?! Share your story below- it could help someone else out!

Happiness is a State of Mind

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I don’t get outside often enough in the winter. But when I do, I’m very grateful for the experience. During winter, I hear people complaining all the time about the weather, the snow, how terrible it is to live in a cold climate, etc. Yes, I’m guilty of some of these statements too.

But you know what? They are just excuses! Excuses not to be happy. Excuses not to enjoy our day. Excuses not to appreciate the beauty of winter and snow. Excuses not to take responsibility for the choice we made to live where we do.

No, I don’t expect you to wake up everyday feeling full of gratitude for every single thing in your life. But this is what I expect of you:

Take responsibility for your own happiness.

Choose to appreciate versus disregard the beauty in your life.

Recognize your life’s abundance.

Here’s how I met my own expectations today! How did you meet yours? Leave a comment below!

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be your best self,

Brittany

What’s your secret?

We all have a story, and we all have secrets that we keep hidden due to shame, ego, or embarrassment. But what would happen if you shared your secret? And owned your truth? Would it set you free?

Watch this video and visit PostSecret.com to see how impactful sharing your secret can be! Which secrets did you connect with? Share your secret below…or tell us that you shared it on PostSecret.com!

What’s Your Addiction?

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I found so many themes that corresponded with addiction this weekend that I feel compelled to talk about it with you. 

Yes, most people know it was the SuperBowl this weekend. Sports fanaticism is many people’s addiction of choice. Although there are benefits to feeling like the “twelfth man” – being part of a large community, sharing in the team’s successes, and having something to watch on Monday nights – in many ways it serves as a distraction or permission. Distraction from my life, successes I wish I had professionally, and the admiration I wish others had for me. It also gives us permission to behave foolishly (yelling about a call), drink a little too much, and indulge. Between the distractions and behaviors it permits, it’s no wonder why so many are addicted to watching football.

This weekend we learned of Phillip Seymour Hoffman’s death. It is under investigation, but largely assumed that he died from a drug overdose. Drug addiction can serve as one of the most accessible and strongest escapes from reality there is. So what are we escaping from? Alcohol is a legal drug, but we can easily over indulge. Be observant when you do so. What were you distracting yourself from?

Too often we are unaware of what’s informing our actions and living without intention. Yet we have so much going on in our heads – what your partner said to you this morning, how your boss treated you, negative opinions of yourself. But we’re not allowed to air out that dirty laundry in most places. So we put on a mask that shows the world “everything’s great, I’m just fine.”

So where do those undesired thoughts and depressed feelings go? They’re there. Always. They won’t go away until you observe them and validate them. Make those thoughts and feelings legal. Explore them. What are you so afraid of finding in them? That you’re not perfect, that you need to work on your marriage, that your boss isn’t always pleased with you? So do the work!

Choosing to hide the thoughts and feelings is only a temporary fix. Soon, you will need an escape or distraction if they fester too long.

Make the choice to not feed your addiction. Make your thoughts and feelings legal for further exploration. Make your needs a priority and do the work! You can get the things you really want – but the first step is to listen. So listen good!

Always be your best self,

Brittany